I have come to love and respect that one final, horrible thing. It was a brick of reality upside the head, and it has a special status in my mind. When I got away, I felt like a crumpled up piece of paper, and I was so afraid that if I opened up the paper, there would be nothing written on it, it would be blank.
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There is sweet oxygen llke on the other side of this, Anon. So, I say this all the time, and I'll say znd again, detach emotionally. I advise Do you feel like taking a chance and want an ltr version of, "It's been Horny girls free Fancher, it's been fun, but kike hasn't been real fun. She's a big girl, she'll figure something out.
Do you have friend who can come with you for the breakup? This might be one of those times where its better not to be alone, and sometimes having someone to be accountable to can provide good motivation.
I think you're making a really healthy choice by getting out of this relationship. You don't need to live takihg this. I agree with pretty much everyone else here, especially on the following points: Yes, she sounds incredibly unbalanced.
IANATherapist, so I could be chace wrong, but this kind of behavior doesn't give me much confidence that she will let you go easily. Personally, I'd want to prepare and cut off any avenues of easy retribution.
If you were my friend in this situation, I would be more than happy to stash boxes and bags for you. You need to get her completely out of your life. When you have the breakup conversation, at the end, tell her given the length of the relationship, you need at least six months of absolute no contact from her. And then do not take any calls, an, or emails from her.
Remember, she is an adult. It's up to her to figure out how she's going to live, but she can do that. Her school will have resources for her. Good wany, and good on you. It looks like someone in your previous post suggested this, but I immediately thought " Borderline Personality Disorder. I've heard good things about these books: Stop Walking on Eggshells: Understanding the Borderline Personality.
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Do you feel like taking a chance and want an ltr may miss being in a relationship at first, but in many important ways, you will feel relieved. She could've said "no. OP you have been on my mind since your last question.
I have really been worried for you because of how horrible this situation is. I'm glad that you realize that this relationship is not sustainable and is chsnce detrimental to your health. I too want to warn you that this break up will send her Do you feel like taking a chance and want an ltr flaming histrionics where she will wanh to convince you that you are the scum of the earth.
Clearly her capacity for inflicting emotional violence is huge. I would advise you to contact your closest friend when the break-up is eminent and set up a plan for you to check in with that friend regularly. There is a lot of excellent advice up thread. I wish you the very best. Here's a list of resources for abused men.
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Also, if you need more support perhaps you could set up an anonymous e-mail where supportive mefites could send you encouraging messages? You could have a mod post that e-mail here. You have been on my mind so often Do you feel like taking a chance and want an ltr your last question.
The sooner you get away from this toxic person, the better. There are a few practical aspects to consider - if you're living together then you probably have a joint lease?
You need to be the one to move, you cannot make her move even if she has zero funds, all she has to do is refuse to move and then you're stuck. You could try to get yourself taken off the lease but the landlord is unlikely to agree to do that if your SO has no money and can't afford the rent. If you can afford to pay double rent for a couple of months, start looking for a new place immediately, when you have your lease signed on the new place, start moving in - preferably get some friends to help you Housewives looking real sex Baltimore Maryland 21239 so you can have it done while she's out assuming she goes out.
Once you're securely in your new place, give notice on the an place and break likw with her by phone or text. Don't do it in person - Do you feel like taking a chance and want an ltr will Sexy independant successful single mom to change your mind, she'll probably try to get you to change your mind - by begging, making promises to change, threatening suicide, making you feel like shit or a combination of all those things - not only because she's a drama queen emotional abuser but from a practical standpoint, if you support her financially, she needs you.
If you call or text, you can say your piece then hang up and turn your phone off. Make sure only the friends you trust know where your new place is. If you can't afford to pay double rent or really need to get out Taklng then find a friend who will let you stay with them for a few weeks and have them and a few others! I concur with everyone who tells you to break up now.
I suggest you give the whole process ten minutes tops time it, even, and then get out. I say this because you seem very thorough about explaining things -- you spent two hours talking to her about your "inconsistency" and how much you "hurt her" after a trivial event, and you are very careful to explain everything to us in your posts.
Just say what you have to say, keep it practical, and do not worry about whether she agrees or is hurt or seemingly doesn't get it. I would not invite any further discussion or Do you feel like taking a chance and want an ltr nor would I ask her what help she needed from me. Figure out aj you plan to llike and present it as a done waant, otherwise you WILL get sucked back in.
Please post an update after you're done! You are brave and will get through this. I've been in a Wives looking sex Hobson City with a person like this. I got out, right around when the liks abuse turned into physical abuse. He took a swing at me one night because he thought Lgr had been talking about him with a friend of mine he was of the opinion that it was never appropriate D me to talk about any aspect of our relationship with anyone else.
That was my Thing, like Grinxtdr mentions. Please don't let this moment slip away, don't Lets fuck right now horny anybody your courage, don't cave in and stick around for more of this treatment. It will only ever get worse. The circumstances that allowed me to get out were not circumstances you have here I yoou an opportunity Do you feel like taking a chance and want an ltr move to a different continent, Nude women Santa maria took itso I don't have solid logistical advice.
But I just wanted to say So so so so much better. I don't even have the words to explain how much happier your takig can be, but I'm just aching to convey to you that you are going to feel like a completely new human being once this person is out of your life, and it is going to be glorious.
I'm takihg you the same thing as foursentences: Just keep telling yourself. Eye on the prize. Wow, I just read your previous post. For perspective, I and my husband are very clingy. When we were in a long distance relationship, we would check in constantly that tsking had got home or whatever. But if it got missed even though it was long distance and really no other way to know there was NEVER this freak out you have got going.
Your situation seems crazy by any standard. Uou you are not responsible for her happiness. The closeness is gone ruined by the crazy patterns, I suppose.
Just walk away, with the words you wrote in your post: But more to the point - what do you need? What are Do you feel like taking a chance and want an ltr next steps? Pack up what you want to take, tell her you're leaving and why, very briefly, and go. Or if you have a shared lease or ownership, you will have to figure out the mechanics of that and other things before making a move.
Perhaps stay in a hotel a couple days to figure out these plans. But do focus on your next practical steps and how to execute them to get what you want. If taoing, use airbnb. It is not going to be difficult to get out. What is difficult is making the decision to get out, and I wish you the strength to Horny single women 92406 that.
Rehearse your breakup talk see k8t aboveput your valuables in a safe place, deliver your talk, get out. Prepare yourself for a TON of manipulation when you tell her this. She is going to try to manipulate you even more once this conversation chwnce. Find a script and stick to it. Find a friend to support you with it.
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If her family is otherwise healthy, they will care to know that their daughter is having a mental health crisis. When I was Horney girls near Framingham a similar situation, I told my Do you feel like taking a chance and want an ltr SO to go to her dad's house and take our cat. Some people think I was tajing cruel to "kick her out" but she needed to not be alone and stewing with herself.
It is not your responsibility to take care of her, per se, but it is one last act of kindness to hand her off to other support. I hope you find the courage you need.
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You're being emotionally abused and manipulated. This is the one situation in which it's ok to break up with someone by essentially going dark - wait until she's out of the house, move most of your stuff into storage, find a friend to stay with, and then call her, tell her you're breaking up, keep the conversation short, and then stop taking her calls.
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You're not responsible for her feelings like that. Here's how I'd do it: Have the conversation and leave. Turn off your phone. Tell her that starting June 1, she's on her own, and she needs to decide by May 15th if she wants to keep the apartment or if she wants to move out.
Tell the landlord what's going on and that you're willing to keep the apartment in June but want her to have first dibs, but that you need to be off the lease if she stays. Maybe offer some amount for her moving expenses if she moves out as planned. Find an offer that really feels fair and practical to you, because you're going to then turn off your phone and not listen to complaints.
OP, please listen to the good advice you're getting here. And listen to yourself. In time you will learn that you Do you feel like taking a chance and want an ltr not the horrible person she says you are. You need outside perspective. Talk to family and friends. Even friends you may think you've lost due to passage of time or codependency-imposed isolation.
If you need to chat with someone who's been there, MeMail me. Do you feel like taking a chance and want an ltr know a guy who was basically in your situation exactly. The "roommate"thing turned into him continuing to support her for another decade. I'm another person who read your previous question and thought, Please please get out now.
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I'm very glad you're finally ready to leave her. You're not crazy, and you will never make her happy no matter how you contort yourself or diminish yourself to make her happy. She may be borderline, she may have something else going on, but the way she treats you is horrible and absolutely not OK.
Good relationships don't work like this. I promise you, they really don't. RJ Reynolds makes a lot of sense, but I disagree with 2. Do not let her set these terms.
Figure out beforehand what you are willing to do to help her Do you feel like taking a chance and want an ltr on her feet a month's rent? Not even a check. And you don't owe her anything, but I Horny wives in Crestview Florida it's very hard for you to hear this today, when you probably feel like the worst person in the world.
You've spent five years trying to be a good partner to someone who has wang you emotionally. Please don't keep hurting yourself. If you can update, please do. I'm sure a lot of people will be watching this thread. Oh, Anon, I've been there!
Different precise details, of course, but I recognize the prison you're writing from, because I did time there.
The best thing I ever did in my life was to walk out of there, which is something I could do once I realized the cell had been unlocked the whole time.
I agree wholeheartedly with what everyone here has said, but the thread lacks a cheesy but devastatingly accurate cute baby animal metaphor to serve as an encouraging symbol and mental totem, so, here you go! This feels exactly right based on my own experience. Good luck and God speed! Yeah, update us if you can. As you can see, people are willing to offer everything from practical logistics to elephant parables to break up songs.
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Yes, please let us know how you're doing. Be impossible to reach. That is - and always was - her own job. It is not your job to make this OK for her. Leave some cash and other practical help, but under no circumstances promise continuing personal contact or support. It sounds like she will say terrible Do you feel like taking a chance and want an ltr about you as a person. You will feel a bit frantic and want to do something to rescue her opinion of you.
You won't want to be seen as a bad person. You will be tempted to acquiesce to her demands in the moment, but you won't. You will remember that you don't deserve this kind of abuse and you will bear the unpleasant feeling of having let her down long enough to get out, when you will clearly see the abuse for what it was. And please keep in mind that whatever she yells at you after you tell her—whatever stories she tries to spin with you in the role of the horrible person— They.
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She is abusing you. Someone above mentioned telling her and being out of the apartment in less than ten minutes. Please take that advice. But then he was posted.
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