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Bit by bit Sweethaert bit they let go. If it takes you weeks or even months to get over someone who you knew for days or a few weeks, this is a very disproportionate reaction to your involvement and is indicative that you were too invested in a very brief connection and are struggling to let go of the fantasy.
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Stuff that undermines your efforts will have you depleting whatever reserves you have left and if you persist in holding on making yourself emotionally bankrupt — something has to give, and that something is you.
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It is a loss that needs to be dealt with and it sounds like you were doing the right things — changing patterns, moving on, moving, for crying out loud. As though you two just ended up in the same room together every day by pure chance.
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